are you a dreamer?

I took advantage of our lovely drive to St. Louis to talk with Neill about The Wedding. I was anxious to know what was important to him, what he envisioned, what he wanted. Yes, believe it or not, I like to take into account other people's opinions :) It seems like we are mainly on the same page in terms of size. We want something small with our immediate/close family and immediate/close friends. We both like the idea of getting married on some sort of estate, having a little cocktail hour, and then dinner and dancing. I want a DJ, but I think Neill would be open to using an ipod for music. I want a sit down dinner with table service and Neill doesn't want to give our guests any food. heh heh. Thankfully, Neill is mostly okay with having a jewish-ey wedding because I sure has hell would not have gone for a Catholic one. My only concern is that we won't be able to find a rabbi who will perform the service. Apparently, it is harder than I thought it would be to find a rabbi who performs interfaith ceremonies. racists. Because Neill is a Northwestern Alum, we have the option of using campus chapel (Alice Millar Chapel) for free. We went to a wedding there about two years ago and it is a very pretty building and has a ton of beautiful blue stained glass. Also, the NU campus around there is gorgeous. The only problem I see is that I remember seeing some crosses around there. It is technically a nondenominational chapel, but I don't necessarily want to get married with a ceramic (plastic?) jesus staring down at me. Anyhoo, just some musings! Time to go to work!